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Feeling Pulled Between Your Parents and Your Kids?

Continuing care at Tallgrass Creek may be the solution.

Feeling Pulled Between Your Parents and Your Kids?Today’s generation of 40 to 60 year olds find themselves in an unprecedented situation. Many members of this so-called “sandwich generation” are pulled between the needs of their children and their aging parents for whom they’re often providing full-time care.

While caring for Mom or Dad can be a reward, it can also take a heavy emotional toll. As a result of their “double duty,” more and more adult caregivers report increased feelings of stress, particularly as their loved one’s needs become more complex.

One solution is to research the numerous care options available, including Tallgrass Creek. Located in Overland Park, this 65-acre senior living community offers independent living, plus dedicated assisted living, memory care, nursing care, and post-acute rehabilitation.

Here, Mom or Dad enjoy a stimulating environment filled with friends and activities—all while receiving a higher level of care than you could provide at home.

Doing “double duty”
The Pew Research Center estimates that just over one in every eight Americans age 40 to 60 cares for a parent in addition to a child. While the average lifespan has increased, many seniors still find themselves in need of complex and costly care. Meanwhile, a sluggish economy and changing cultural norms have seen more young adults returning home after college or in between careers.

Members of the sandwich generation are working a double shift, providing emotional and financial support to their children as well as their parents—with few outlets for their own needs. Factor in the demands of our 24/7 work lives, and it’s easy to see why so many caregivers feel overwhelmed.

When to consider continuing care
Mom or Dad’s health can change in an instant, so it’s smart to research the care providers in your area ahead of time. This way, you’ll be ready should your loved one need to make a quick move.

Often, however, Mom or Dad’s needs evolve over time. Eventually, you may not feel qualified to offer the level of support required. In other instances, the pressure and responsibility of  caregiving can begin to affect your family, your relationships, and even your career. In any of these situations, it may be wise to consider a continuing care provider like Tallgrass Creek.

What to look for in a provider
Ultimately, you should feel confident in the team who will be providing care. At Tallgrass Creek, the dedicated team specializes in the unique needs of seniors. They take the time to get to know and care about your loved one on a personal level, providing one-on-one attention and support.

Tallgrass Creek will even coordinate the details of Mom or Dad’s care, scheduling appointments  with the doctors at the on-site medical center. You won’t have to spend another morning on-hold with Mom’s medical office, or take off work to drive Dad to his follow-up.

While many continuing care providers claim to be experts, Tallgrass Creek has the experience to support those claims. The community is backed by Erickson Living®, a network of communities with more than 30 years of experience in senior living and health care.

Start your research today
By learning about your options today, you can save time and reduce your stress in the future. To find out more about assisted living, memory care, nursing care, or post-acute rehabilitation at Tallgrass Creek in Overland Park, call 913-752-9553 or visit

• 65 million adults are unpaid caregivers: ¼ of the US population
• 72% of caregivers are caring for an aging parent
• 66% of unpaid caregivers are women
• Caregivers spend 20.4 hours a week providing care
• More than 1 in 4 caregivers feel emotionally stressed
• 69% of caregivers struggle to balance work and caregiving
• Caregivers miss 6.6 days of work per year
*Data from National Center on Caregiving (; AARP;

The National Alliance on Caregiving; Pew Research Center; and Gallup Healthways Wellbeing Survey.

You’re caring for your parents, but are you caring enough for you?
Follow these 6 tips to avoid caregiver burnout:

1    Research your loved one’s condition. Learn as much as you can about their health concerns, medications, symptoms, and how they may change. This will help you stay
informed and know what to expect.

2    Consider a few home modifications. Install grab bars, shower seats, and invest in easy grip utensils that can help your loved one remain independent and complete daily tasks.

3    Ask for help. Tell friends, family, and neighbors when you need help. Try not to criticize if they don’t care for your loved one exactly as you do—as long as your loved one’s needs are met.

4    Remember to take care of you. Eating well, exercising, and taking time to unwind are key to avoiding burnout. Familiarize yourself with the signs of depression, which can affect caregivers.

5    Don’t take it personally. Alzheimer’s, dementia, pain, and the stress of chronic conditions may cause your loved one to say hurtful things. Remember, it’s the illness talking, not your loved one.

6    Know the resources available to you. There are a wide variety of programs and services to help you manage the challenges of caregiving. Review the following helpful resources for just a few examples.

Helpful resources
•    Eldercare locator. Visit to search for services in your local area.

•    Community resources. Your local United Way and faith-based organizations can also help you find assistance.

•    Social workers. Social workers at hospitals, clinics, and home health agencies may be able to recommend the right services.

•    Tallgrass Creek. The team of health care professionals specializes in the unique needs of seniors. Call 913-752-9553 to learn more.

*Compiled from “Tips for Avoiding Caregiver Burnout” at

Tallgrass Creek
13800 Metcalf Avenue
Overland Park, Kansas 66223

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