By David Naster, Humor Coach, Author, Speaker
If anyone dedicates just one month to humor, your life probably isn’t very joyful. We must find and experience humor every day. Being amused and delighted by a funny idea that causes us to feel good is imperative for our emotional weIl being. Humor brings us out of situations that cause worry, anxiety or stress. Sometimes those situations are more traumatic than others. Here’s a true story to prove my point.
Seventy-year-old Bill Mahoney was sitting in the doctor’s office with his wife. They were waiting to get the results of Bill’s MRI. The doctor walked in and told Bill he had cancer in every part of his body except his lungs. Bill smiled at the doctor and said, ‘Thank God I didn’t quit smoking.’
Humor is a choice
At that moment, Bill Mahoney made the choice to think funny. Humor is a choice you make. There is no such thing as a ‘sense of humor.’ Humor is NOT a sense; humor is a ‘state of mind.’ And Bill Mahoney kept that going even when his cancer got worse.
He was restricted to a hospital bed in his house. Daughter Anne was asleep in a recliner next to Bill’s bed. She heard a loud ‘thump.’ She looked over; her dad was not in bed. She ran down the hall to find Mr. Mahoney on all fours, in front of the bathroom. He tried to make it to the bathroom on his own, but collapsed because he was so weak. Anne got down on her knees and said, “Daddy are you okay. What do you want me to do?” Bill Mahoney looked over at his daughter, smiled and said, ‘Castors honey, get me four castors. Put them on my hands and knees and you can roll me anywhere I need to go.’
Humor can replace fear
Again, at that moment of stress, worry and anxiety, humor replaced fear. And when that happens, we guide our thinking out of staying emotional. At moments of raw emotion, we need the logical part of the brain to kick in and resolve the situation. Humor helps us get there. Don’t get me wrong, fear is an important emotion to let us know of danger and threat, but staying there serves no purpose.
So humor serves two major functions:
1. In extreme life and death situations, humor is critical to get our brains balanced, thinking clear to provide a solution.
2. On a day-to-day basis, we have to balance our worry, stress and anxiety to function thoughtfully and joyously. Humor also makes us cheerful, joyful, carefree, untroubled, delighted, lighthearted, content, elated, exhilarated, ecstatic and euphoric. And who doesn’t want that every day?
So please remember on a humorous note:
Some days you’re the bug; some days you’re the windshield.
Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.
And never, ever, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
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