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Ten Most Common Reasons for Seeking Help from a Therapist or Counselor

By Lynne Weilert, MSW, LMSW –

Contrary to the myth that only “crazy people” seek help from a therapist, many individuals and families have discovered the value of working with a mental health professional for various personal and social issues that are causing them severe distress. The stigma that was formerly associated with seeking help for these concerns is quickly dissipating as many are discovering the merits of finding a skilled, compassionate professional to help them through the storms of life.

The following is a list of some of the most common reasons individuals seek help from a therapist or Counselor:

1. Major life events such as an impending divorce or break-up, a financial crisis, serious health issues or accident, dealing with mid-life crisis, or aging concerns. Utilizing the services of a skilled impartial and non judgmental professional can sometimes help individuals or couples find new ways of communicating and resolving their difficulties that they had not previously considered. Understanding that as we get older, it is important to find new ways to find meaning in our lives, whether that means reinventing ourselves with a new career, volunteering, developing new interest, and meeting new people that are positive and nurturing.

2. Depression: If you find yourself struggling to get out of bed and feel that your life has no meaning, or that the things that used to bring you joy now seem insignificant, it may be time to seek help. Although medications are commonly prescribed for Depression, milder forms may respond to more natural forms of treatment such as increased socialization, vitamin D, increased exercise and other suggestions your therapist may recommend.

3. Anxiety related disorders: Feeling nervous or panicky in social situations such as public speaking, fears or phobias such as fear of flying, PTSD from traumatic experiences, and numerous other activities that create extreme stress often improve when an individual receives treatment from a qualified professional.

4. Anger Management: Today we face more demands on our time from work and family, with constant stimulation from technology. Many individuals feel unable to cope with the stress of everyday life and find themselves exploding in anger, often with the people they love the most. Learning healthier ways to communicate and cope with anger can be beneficial to not only the individual seeking help, but to their friends and family as well.

5. Blended family issues: With a divorce rate of around 50%, many couples find themselves dealing with the unique challenges of step children, sibling rivalry, custody battles, and financial concerns. Finding helpful ways to sort through these issues can sometimes mean having some or all family members involved in the Therapy process in order to facilitate healing.

6. Parenting concerns: “Failure to launch” young adults; bullying or other problems at school; children who become anti-social and spend excessive periods of time playing video games, watching on-line porn, texting, tweeting or otherwise alienating themselves from their family and friends all are frequent reasons that mental health professionals see frustrated parents in their offices.

7. Addictions: Whether the problem is a common as a desire to quit smoking or as serious as a gambling, alcohol or drug addiction, this category is a very troubling issue that if left untreated can lead to broken marriages, job loss and serious health risk.

8. Grief and Loss: The loss of a spouse, child or other family member, or even a close friend can cause extreme distress and, if not resolved, can lead to Depression. Finding a support group can be helpful as is finding an empathetic therapist who can provide well thought-out suggestions for honoring the loss of a loved one and methods for coping.

9. Eating Disorders: Many individuals struggle with their weight and sometimes find they are eating not from hunger, but as a way to cope with the stress of daily living. Still others, primarily young women, feel they are overweight when in fact, they are dangerously underweight. Feeling the need to exercise excessively, and utilizing extreme measures to avoid gaining weight, can lead to very serious health issues and even death. A specially trained therapist can literally be a life saver for these individuals.

10. Lack of self esteem: Poor self image and lack of assertiveness can cause an individual to become socially isolated, leading to difficulties in creating healthy relationships and being left behind in the work place. Learning how to become more confident and assertive without becoming aggressive can be extremely helpful to young and old alike.

Taking the first step in searching for a therapist or counselor is often the most difficult. Many feel that treatment is time consuming and expensive. However, many clients soon discover that the cost is affordable and that many therapists {including the author} offer some evening and Saturday hours to accommodate working adults. Many concerns can be addressed with a solution focused approach enabling the patient to resolve or improve their situation within a few visits. More serious issues may need other forms of therapy or a combination approach which may take more time.

Whatever your concerns, you are not alone. Don’t wait for things to get better. Call me today for a free initial consultation at 913-696-1400 or direct at 913-221-1038.

A therapist licensed in MO and KS, Lynne received her Masters Degree in Social Work from UMKC after a career working in healthcare marketing and business management. She is passionate about her work as a therapist and feels very blessed to be in a position to provide dedicated service to her clients.

When not at the office, Lynne enjoys spending time with friends and family, singing in a local choir, and volunteering with several local organizations.

J. Lynne Weilert, MSW, LMSW
Lynne has personally experienced many of the life challenges faced by her clients and combines her personal experience and professional knowledge to provide a friendly, thoughtful and interactive approach to treating clients including individuals, couples and families. Lynne is a published author and has been featured in Her Life, Prime and other local publications.

Before starting her private practice, Lynne worked with victims of domestic violence as well as adults and seniors, facilitating Depression seminars and support groups for adult care givers.

Visit with her and her colleagues on Saturday, February 22nd from 1:00 pm to 4:00 pm at her Open House at Leawood Counseling Center, 11100 Ash Street, Suite 100, Leawood, KS 66211.

To learn more, or to schedule an appointment, please call Lynne at Leawood Counseling Center at 913-696-1400 or direct at 913-221-1038. You can also visit her website at

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